Today, we’d like to share some ideas about “Financial Stress In Relationships.”
When couples seek our marriage advice, rarely to they talk about being stressed out over money. Many people, and couples, are worried about their finances. And why not? They have reason to. We’re in a recession.
If you’re in a relationship that has had problems all along, adding financial stress only makes the situation worse. Those problems plus financial stress converge to create a “perfect storm” that can have a devastating impact on relationships.
It doesn’t have to be this way. Buddy & Sophie proved this to be true in sharing their story in our book, “Mining for Gold In Your Relationships.” It wasn’t their financial problem that was the problem. Rather, it was the way they reacted to each other because of the problem.
Problems, no matter what the issue(s) might be, are not solved at the level of the problem. Attempting to solve problems at this level, most often, only results in couples fighting, blaming and criticizing each other, and being frustrated by “get nowhere” arguments that don’t lead to any solutions. We taught Buddy and Sophie a simple process to go beneath their surface issues involving money and enabled them to not only find a solution but resulted in them finding the “gold”–a deeper and more loving connection. They also have more money.
If you’d like to know how they did it, get a copy of our book. The steps are spelled out in their real life story. Be assured that even during these difficult economic times, it is not only possible for you to get through it without tearing your relationship apart, that you can, in fact, create a closer, deeper bond than ever before.
To Your Relationship Success,
Jesse & Melva
