Being Stuck in an Unhappy Relationship or Marriage

Are you in a marriage or relationship with problems that you don’t know how to fix? Have you tried repeatedly but regardless of what you do or how hard you try, nothing seems to work. If your answer is yes, you’re not alone. This may not be very comforting but it’s a fact for far too many couples. It’s also true that if you don’t find a way of turning things around that the quality of your life and relationship is likely to suffer. You might stay together for the kid’s sake, or maybe you can’t afford to leave or whatever. But, the bottom line is that life will not be what you want it to be and that’s sad.

It’s unfortunate that by the time most couples come to us for marriage or relationship counseling we represent their last step before a breakup, separation or divorce. Most have spent years in incredible emotional pain–hurt, angry, depressed, sad, confused, bewildered, stressed, loveless, sexless, hopeless, ashamed, and powerless. And while the picture may appear to be pretty bleak, in more cases than you would expect, couples really turn things around. We teach couples the essential relationship skills they need to fix their problems, stay together, keep their families intact, and live happier and more fulfilling lives.

We continue to reach out to as many couples as possible, in as many ways as possible, because we know that living in an unhappy relationship is not the way to live. Breaking up, for most couples, is not the answer either because it only creates a host of other problems. By learning some basic relationship skills–one of which is how to communicate better, it is possible to create the relationship you’ve longed for. We know. We’ve seen it time after time.

Now, the question might be, where do we start. Email us at info@JesseandMelvaJohnson.Com or call us at 248-547-1180 for a free 20 minute telephone consultation. We’ll help you assess your situation and suggest a way to help you get started. Let us hear from you.

Here’s to your relationship success!

Jesse and Melva

  • Robin Rood
    I am in a unhappy, lonely marriage. We barely talk. He talks to the dog and cat more than me. We do not share intimacy. Sex for him is a job or chore that has to be 'done' not enjoyed. I get 15 minutes of his time if he feels he can spare it. Usually he can not. I started out loving his man more than I ever thought possible. Now I have no feelings for him at all but cannot leave. I now intertain thoughts of him having an accident at work and how I would feel if that would happen. I would be sad for his mother but I would not be sad for his loss. He has hurt me and damaged me emotionally. He will not listen to my needs and wants and anything I say, try to discuss is addressed as ME being fussy, and when I am being fussy I am not worth listening too. I have read every book and done every suggestion, nothing works. Yet I still try to figure it out. I used to blame it all on me, but it is not me. I lost weight, I watched movies with him (XXX rated), I fixed him all his favorite meals, I still wait on him hand and foot and handle all of the household responsibilities. I found pornography - a duffle bag full, he will watch the 'dirty' parts of movies over and over again. Yet when he finaly decides he needs attention he treats me like a piece of meat. No kissing no caressing, no loving statements. He drags me to the bedroom to get his needs met. There is no foreplay, no afterplay, within 2 minutes of finishing, he is putting his clothes back on and back to watching TV. He tells me he doesn't have time. But he will spend 3 hours detailing his vehicle when the kids are gone, time we could be sharing. But he doesn't have time. My kids leave every other weekend we always have alone time, but he can't even carry on a conversation with me. He is happier to see the dog when he comes home from work. He never greets me or kisses me. I get asked what's for supper and am expected to cook it and bring it to him. I am not allowed to try to inniate anything. I get ignored or downright turned down. I feel cheated. I used to cry and be angry, now I feel nothing. I am exhausted. I have tried talking, writing it down on paper because he doesn't like it if I become emothinal, he never opened the letter. We can't talk about anythong because he becomes defensive. Me asking for him to do this or that, is ME telling him he is doing something wrong in his book. I can't seem to reach him. I still think he is attractive, but I am begining to believe that marrying him was the worst mistake of my life.
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