When was the last time you and your mate or partner went on a date? If you have to take a minute to think about it, it’s been too long!
It wasn’t always that way. Remember when you were dating? Regardless of what you were doing or how busy you were, you found a way to spend time together. You couldn’t wait until you saw each other. You made every effort to look your best. You made the time together as wonderful as possible. You made each other feel special. You went “out of your way” for each other and didn’t complain. You enjoyed your time together. You felt loved, cared for, appreciated, desired, sexy, sensuous, attractive, supported, nurtured, wanted and many intense wonderful feelings. They were so passionate that you wanted to be together forever. Remember?
So, here are a few questions… Are you still dating? Are you spending quality time together–just the two of you–alone? When did you stop dating? Was it when you moved in together? Got engaged? Got married? Had kids? Got caught up with work? Keeping a house? Paying bills? Or whatever? It really doesn’t matter when or why you stopped–the fact is that you did and you’ve been paying a huge price ever since- whether you realize it or not!
One of the best things you can do for your relationship and your family is for you to enjoy each other and have fun. This means that you must create a regular, consistent time, preferably weekly, where the two of you spend “quality time” together. Keep it simple and focus on things that allow you to interact and connect. You can, on occasion, spend a few extra dollars on a dinner, theatre, concert, or whatever. The most important thing is to schedule the time together nurturing your relationship.
